I Love You Very Much, My Son

“I love you very much, my son” are words that we would all like to hear but that, on some occasions, are not mentioned in the family. Maybe it has to do with the education or customs that each person was raised with. However, it is very important to show love to children. For what reason? We explain it to you below.

Love and children

First of all, beyond any definition or concept, love is a human need that produces well-being. In the case of children, love helps them to grow up happy and feel safe.

According to the UNICEF book  Psychosocial Development of Children,  the basis of the integral development of children depends on the experiences they lived during early childhood within the family.

That is, if children are raised in a psychologically stable environment in which they are treated with affection and respect, they will be able to develop the necessary social and intellectual skills. Some of these essential skills are self-confidence, self-esteem, the ability to love and share. For all these reasons, it is so important to always show your children masters.

Basically, if children are raised in a psychologically stable environment, they  will enjoy a positive attitude towards life and its myriad challenges. As you can see, the love of parents in the lives of their children is essential for their development and well-being.

The influence of showing love to children

It is repeatedly said that no one teaches us to be parents or that children come into the world without an instruction manual. However, anyone learns to be a parent, but usually the way they were raised. Children model parents even in the way of parenting, when the time comes.

On the other hand, there is also the natural instinct for the care and rearing of children, as well as the many lessons that experience teaches. The truth is that, over the years, millions of families around the world have raised their children according to the culture and beliefs of the time.

However, what is the best way to educate children to be happy?

How to educate the children?

In his book “ Bésame mucho. How to raise your children with love ” , Carlos González comments that people who were treated with affection during their childhood tend to be more peaceful, kind, understanding and also healthier and happier adults. In fact, he ends his book by mentioning that the happiest days of a child depend on the parents.

This data is correct, since  the psychosocial development of a child begins in the mother’s womb. This process is carried out through interactions with the environment, such as movements, thoughts, actions, language, emotions and feelings that arise from relationships with others.

From this, the fact that  parents are the first people with whom the baby interacts is irrefutable . Therefore, the baby is totally dependent on its parents for knowledge of life and happiness.

What science says about showing love to children

In the English magazine Sociology, Health and Disease , an article was recently published stating that showing love to children helps them develop their brain and become emotionally stronger.

Researcher Glenda Wall points out that responsive and empathetic behavior by parents, guided by experts, is critical to promoting emotional strength and self-regulation in children.

Likewise, it indicates that this attachment construction tends to fall more on mothers than on fathers. However, both contribute to the integral development of your little one. In short, if a little one receives love, attention, care and also observes that their parents know how to regulate their emotions; your brain development and adaptability will be favored.

What you can do to show love to your children

Although it would be the ideal, not all of us know how to establish healthy attachments with the people around us. Perhaps because of this, we come to think that we are not capable of cultivating a good relationship with our children. However, a key that helps strengthen the bond between parents and children is to begin to understand them.

What can parents do to show love to their children? Here are some suggestions:

• It starts from gestation. Both parents must show affection to the baby from the time it is in the womb. They can talk to him, caress the mother’s womb, or keep track of his movements. They can also take care of their health by making constant medical visits.

• Have a continuous loving attitude so that the child develops security and confidence.
• Show love through words, gestures, kisses, hugs and expressions at any time.
• Interact frequently in common activities and games.
• Encourage attitudes and behaviors that favor communication in the family.
• In addition to showing affection and affection, it is necessary to cover their basic needs such as food, stimuli and basic care.

Reflections

You may think that saying words like: “I love you very much, my son” is not necessary. The truth is that  showing love to children is one of the keys to raising them healthily.

Perhaps beyond worrying about how to educate our children, it would make sense to re-educate ourselves as individuals, before educating them. Perhaps this way we can teach our children to live happier.